Let’s talk about the big purple elephant in the room… jealousy.
Have you ever felt jealous of someone who seems to be rockin’ it in the spiritual world? Maybe a psychic medium or Reiki practitioner whose calendar is booked from now until 2020?
Or maybe they were able to quit their “day job” to work with their gifts full time while you struggle to get ONE client?
Did this make you want to cry over a pint of Ben and Jerry’s Chocolate Fudge Brownie ice cream? You are not alone.
I’d love to be able to say that I’ve never, ever felt jealous while on my path, but that would be a lie. I’ve been there. Done that. Got the t-shirt.
Here are the ways that I’ve learned to stop feeling jealous and start feeling inspired instead:
1. Acknowledge and make room for your feelings
First, let’s acknowledge that the “J” word isn’t a bad word. It’s just an emotion – just like joy or excitement or any other emotion. It doesn’t make you a horrible person, a monster, or “un-spiritual”.
When we feel jealous, it’s simply because someone else is having an experience that we also want to have.
There is a uniqueness in doing spiritual work – KNOWING that we are spiritual beings and wanting to live an authentic and soulful life – while running the gamut of human emotions.
Instead of feeling ashamed of your feelings, make space for them. Love yourself, your ENTIRE self.
If a client came to you and shared that they were jealous would you condemn them? Scold them? No, you would see them for the spiritual being that they are and love them. Don’t you deserve the same treatment?
Wherever you are on the “emotional scale” as Abraham-Hicks calls it, is okay.
2. Move from jealousy to inspiration
When you go into a restaurant and someone is sitting at the next table eating a delectable meal, do you feel jealous? Of course not! Instead, you call the waiter over and say, I’ll have what she’s having!
A fresh perspective is a wonderful thing and can help you transform your emotions to ones that feel more positive.
When I first started blogging, I felt inferior to other spiritual bloggers. I felt jealous of those whose message was reaching masses of people (and who were making money while doing what they loved!).
Then one day, I started to have a new perspective. I decided that if these other people could do it, so could I. I let myself be inspired.
I also realized that EVERYONE is somewhere on the path. Some of us are at the beginning and some of us are further along the path. That’s all.
You may be in the beginning of your journey or you may be further along. We’re all on the path.
Once I stopped comparing myself to other spiritual business people, I started to feel a whole lot better. Instead of feeling inferior towards Brigit at Biddy Tarot, I decided that I’ll have what she’s having.
I let myself be inspired by her. On an impulse last year, I booked a business coaching session with Brigit (highly recommended, by the way). And guess what? She was kind and generous.
I’ve learned that it’s more fun to collaborate with the people you admire than feel jealous or competitive towards them.
My friend Jodi Chapman wrote a wonderful post about Turning Envy into Inspiration. I highly recommend it.
3. There is no shortage of abundance
There are billions of people in this world and PLENTY that can benefit from our help. There are enough clients for you, me, and everyone.
There is room for everyone.
There is abundance for everyone.
If you have lots of abundance, it doesn’t mean that I get less. It’s not a pie that needs to be divided up (thank goodness, right?)
Once we relax and allow, the universe will bring us the people that we can help. Doesn’t that feel WONDERFUL?
4. The world needs more light
When I connect with my soul I remember that the world needs our light.
Your light, my light, ALL of our light and love.
Now, if I start to feel envy, I take a breath and remember that this work is all about spreading love and being of service to others.
Sometimes, a person connects with my message. Other times, they connect with someone else. As long as they are connecting and feeling loved and a sense of worth and belonging, it doesn’t matter.
5. Don’t compare yourself with others
Comparing ourselves with others is such a dangerous emotional “trap”. When I find that I’m comparing myself to another blogger or medium, I immediately remind myself of the things that are most important to ME.
Number one on my list is being there for my daughter, who struggles with significant health problems. I remind myself that I’ll get where I need to be, it just may take me a little longer.
Then I feel good because my actions (caring for my daughter) align with what I value most (taking care of my family).
I hope you’re breathing a little easier now. Now you can go enjoy your Ben and Jerry’s Fudge Brownie ice cream… but now you can enjoy it with a smile instead of with tears :)
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