Being an empath or clairsentient (the ability of psychic sensing) is wonderful.
There’s nothing like the look on your husbands face when you start rubbing his shoulders — before he complains about how sore they are. Or knowing that your BFF has awesome news to share before you receive her emoji-filled text. (“How did you KNOW?!” never gets old.)
But sometimes being an empath (and feeling all that energy) can be tough to navigate.
Especially when you walk into a crowded mall or have family drama to deal with.
So somewhere between the realization that, “OMG that’s why I hate sad movies” you may also have thoughts like:
- How can I stop other people’s emotions from draining me?
- What if I can never enjoy a concert or festival again? (Too many people. Ugh, energy drain!)
- How do I stop feeling emotionally wiped out?
- Why does family drama impact me SO much?
Never fear. Here are some real-life tips to thrive at being an empath (from my years of experience!)
15 Tips for Being an Empath
Pro tip. Being an empath is part of the psychic gift of clairsentience. Learn all about in this clairsentient beginner’s post.
1. Deflect energy
Being an empath means that you can feel the energy of other people — including their emotions. This may sound exhausting, but it doesn’t have to be. In fact, this is a beautiful psychic gift to have!
So the next time you’re with someone who is emitting a lot of emotions, imagine that there are mirrors all around you… facing OUTWARD. This simple trick deflects energy away from you and back to the person.
Plus, it’s super simple to do when you’re around someone you can’t step away from (like your co-worker)!
2. Practice grounding
Energy overwhelm is real, and it can kick in pretty easily. One sad movie, and before you know it, everything seems like a bigger deal than it is.
Grounding is one of my favorite ways to deal with this, and can help you refocus and recharge. It’s a method of returning to the present — kinda like meditation!
Here are some of my go-to methods for grounding:
- Eating some root veggies (or chocolate! Yes, seriously!)
- Taking an aura bath (the water is super calming)
- Popping on your fave song and dancing around
- Taking an outdoor walk (include your pup too!)
Here’s my full blog post with oodles of grounding methods.
3. Surround yourself with white or pink light
You can use this tip anytime, anywhere. It’s totally incognito!
So next time you sense someone feeling sad, anxious, or upset, surround yourself with white light… and extend some to them as well.
Doing this acknowledges what you (and they) are feeling, and sends them light and positive energy.
Pro tip! My empath survival post is chock full of more tips to thrive at being an empath.
4. Thank the universe
Yes, I know that sounds odd, but stick with me…
Whenever you pass someone who is suffering, thank the universe for the opposite. For example… If you pass by a homeless man and he feels afraid, ask the universe to give him protection and strength.
You can also do this for yourself. If you feel sad, thank the universe for laughter, peace, love, and joy. Ad if you feel lonely, be thankful for love and peace. This will help raise your vibration, and spread your loving clairsentient energy.
5. Be aware of your perspective
Being aware of your perspective is my number one tip for being an empath. Numero uno!
Here’s the deal: as much as we wish we could, we can’t help everyone. It’s a simple concept, but not so easy, right?
So the next time you watch the news and want to curl up and cry — remind yourself that we are all spiritual beings that are here to learn and grow.
And trust me, you weren’t born with intuitive gifts to be burdened by them. In fact, your psychic abilities are here to enrich your life and give you access to divine guidance.
You are always in control of your gifts. It’s just that you haven’t learned how to wrangle those ponies yet… but that’s why you’re here, reading this post. :)
This perspective will shift EVERYTHING. I pinky promise.
6. Like attracts like
The law of attraction is a real thing, and we each attract stuff that we’re not even aware of.
For example, my grandma is always having issues with her kitchen appliances. It’s a running joke in our family that whenever she goes to the casino and wins a little bit of money, *poof*. The dishwasher or some other appliance will surely let go!
Seriously! She’s replaced them all in the last few years — more than once. But what does she say every time it happens? “It’s always something!”
Of course it is, if you truly believe that.
The universe will deliver what you expect. The point is, we are all conscious creators who have the ability to attract stuff into our experience. And sometimes, people have to experience things for spiritual growth.
7. Avoid negative Nancys when you can
Ugh. You know that ONE coworker who is constantly complaining? Skittles could rain from the sky and she would say they’re the wrong flavor. Yep, being around them is exhausting, and it takes a while to recover from that interaction.
So as much as possible, stay clear of these people and start surrounding yourself with positive, like-minded people. Remember that like attracts like.
8. Set energetic boundaries
Of course, you may not always have a choice of whether to interact with a negative person (hello, sister!) But, you do have a choice in what they take from you.
If this is someone permanently in your life, study their patterns. Recognizing the behaviors that drain you will help you determine how to protect yo’ self!
Don’t be afraid to set up boundaries. Ensuring you’re not drained allows you to bring your best self all your relationships.
BONUS TIP: I have one family member who’s an eternal pessimist. When I chat with her and start feeling drained, I say something positive to raise the energy. It works great!
9. Don’t watch the news
Nearly every thing in the news nowadays is beyond draining. Keeping up with current events is important, I get it. But for me, it’s not worth the yucky way I feel after watching a stream of war, famine, political rhetoric or violence.
So if you’re noticing that your empathic goodness is on the fritz after a jarring news story or sad movie, avoid them. And if you do see something that bothers you, follow it up with something that makes you smile (like your fave episode of Friends).
10. Take control of your aura
Our aura (the energy surrounding us) is a direct reflection of the emotions we feel. When you’re at your tippy top best, you’ll have a bright, gorgeous aura. But when you encounter negative emotions, your aura can get dull, ripped, or damaged.
So the next time you’re feeling overwhelmed, take a deep breath and try to get a physical sense of where your aura is. Does it feel all spread out around the room? Imagine pulling it close and making it feel light and healthy again.
- Here are some aura cleansing ideas that will take your aura from drab to fab!
11. Take an empath time out
Hey, sometimes you just need a breather! For days when you just can NOT listen to your sister’s drama for one more minute, make taking a break a priority. Honor what you feel and practice self care.
Some fun time-out ideas:
- A bubble bath (with lavender oil — always!)
- A walk in the park
- Crank up your favorite music
- Indulge in your go-to flavor of ice cream
Yep, you knew this was coming. That’s because meditating is a staple in empath health. Seriously, don’t leave your overwhelmed brain to its own devices. Take this opportunity to hop on your floor pillow and try a meditation.
Meditation pulls you out of the moment and gives you perspective (yes, please!) It also allows you to enter into a “witness frame of mind” which pulls you out of overwhelm.
If you’re too flustered to enter into your own meditation, try a guided one! The apps Calm and Headspace have great guided meditations.
13. Use crystals to manage your gift
Using crystals is one of my favorite tips for thriving at being an empath. It’s also one of my go-to ways to clear negative energy! I have crystals all over my house, but I also stash one in my pocket when I’m going out.
My favorite energy clearing crystal is black tourmaline, but there are other powerful ones as well.
Some great negative energy clearing crystals are:
- Snowflake and black obsidian
- Apache tears
- Smoky quartz
14. Wash off negative energy
If you’ve been a situation that’s left you feeling drained, freshen up and change your clothes as soon as you get home.
Putting on clean, comfy clothes, and washing your hands and face (or hopping in the shower) helps get negativity off you and freshens up your energy!
15. Sage yourself
I love sage cleansing! LOVE! I spruce up my home, my car, and MYSELF with sage… yep, myself! I fell head over heels for this sage spray.
Whenever I need an energetic pick me up, or to get rid of negative energy, I spritz a little sage spray around me. It’s super easy and I can give my house a quick spritz of sage whenever it needs!
Now that you know it’s totally possible to manage being an empath, you may want further develop your clairsentient gift. I’ve got you covered with these fun and easy posts:
- 6 Easy Exercises to Develop Clairsentience
- How to do Psychometry (psychically read objects)
- Clairsentient Cheat Sheet (loaded with tips and exercises)
Being an Empath Takeaways
Years ago, I felt like being an empath was a big, fat drain. But once I learned how to manage being an empath, I see it for the gift it is.
And once you start using these tips, you’ll see what a gift being an empath is, too!
We all know that the world needs more beautiful, loving energy. And that’s something that we, as clairsentients and empaths, can give to the universe!
If you loved this post, I invite you to download my free guide and audio which will help you embrace your intuitive gifts. xo