Being an empath or clairsentient (someone who receives psychic messages through senses and feelings) can be WONDERFUL.
There’s nothing like the look on your husbands face when you start rubbing his shoulders before he complains about how sore they are. Or knowing that your BFF has awesome news to share before you receive her emoji-filled text. (“How did you KNOW?!” never gets old.)
But sometimes being an empath (and feeling every little thing) can be tough to navigate. Especially when you walk into a crowded shopping mall or have a close family member with more issues than Vogue.
So somewhere between the empath realization that, “OMG that’s why I can’t stand sad movies”, and, “Maybe now I can dodge that slimy salesman BEFORE I had over my credit card!” you may also have thoughts like:
- How can I stop other people’s emotions from draining me?
- What if I can never enjoy a concert or festival again? (Too many people. Ugh, energy drain!)
- How do I stop feeling so emotionally wiped out?
- Why does family drama impact me SO much?
Never fear. Here are some real-life, down and dirty tips to
survive thrive being an empath (from years of personal experience).
15 Tips to Thrive at Being an Empath (and avoid energy drain)
1. Deflect the emotions
Being an empath means that other people’s emotions can be exhausting. So the next time you’re with someone who is emitting a lot of emotions, imagine that there are mirrors all around you facing outward. This simple trick deflects energy away from you and back to the person.
Plus, it’s super simple to do when you’re around someone you just can’t step away from (like your co-worker)!
2. Practice grounding
Energy overwhelm is totally real, and it can kick in pretty easily. One sad movie, and before you know it, there goes the neighborhood… Everything seems like a bigger deal than it really is.
Grounding is one of my favorite ways to deal with this because can help you refocus and recharge. It’s a method of returning to the present — kinda like meditation!
Here are some of my go-to methods for grounding:
- Eating some root veggies (or chocolate! Yes, seriously!)
- Taking a bath (the water is super calming)
- Popping on your fave song and dancing around
- Taking an outdoor walk (include your pup too!)
Here’s my full blog post with oodles of grounding methods.
3. Surround yourself with white or pink light
Here’s the cool thing: This tip can be done anywhere, anytime. Basically, when you sense someone feeling sad/anxious/upset, surround yourself with white light, and extend some to them as well.
Doing this acknowledges what you (and they) are feeling, and sends the only thing you can — light and well wishes.
4. Pray for the opposite
Yes, I know that sounds odd, but stick with me…
Whenever you pass someone who is suffering (like the homeless man in the Walmart parking long), thank the universe for the opposite. So if he feels fearful to you, thank the universe for giving this man protection and strength.
You can also do this for yourself! If you feel sad, thank the universe for laughter, peace, love, and joy. If you feel lonely, be thankful for love and peace.
5. Be aware of your perspective
OMG, being aware of your perspective is my number one tip for being an empath! Seriously! Numero uno!
Here’s the deal: As much as we wish we could, we can’t save everyone from their pain. A simple concept? Sure. Easy to implement? Ha, not so much.
So, the next time you start going down that emotional rabbit hole – you know, when you see that horrible news story and you’re about to curl up and cry – remind yourself that you’re feeling emotions from a spiritual being(s) that is here to grow – just like you!
You weren’t born with intuitive gifts to be burdened by them. Nay! Your psychic abilities are here to enrich your life and give you access to Divine guidance.
You are always in control of your gifts. It’s just that you haven’t learned how to wrangle those ponies yet… but that’s why you’re here, reading this post. :)
This perspective will shift EVERYTHING. I pinky promise.
6. Keep in mind that the Law of Attraction is at work
The law of attraction is a real thing, and we each attract stuff that we might not be aware of.
My grandma is CONSTANTLY having issues with her kitchen appliances. It’s a running joke in our family that whenever she takes a senior bus trip to the casino and wins a little bit of money, *poof*. The dishwasher or some other appliance will surely let go!
Seriously! She’s replaced them all in the last few years — more than once. But what does she say every time it happens? “It’s always something!”
Of course it is, if you truly believe that.
The universe will deliver what you expect. The point is, we are all conscious creators who have the ability to attract stuff into our experience. Sometimes, people have to experience things for themselves to grow spiritually.
7. Avoid negative Nancys when you can
Ugh. You know that ONE coworker who is constantly complaining? Skittles could rain from the sky and she would say they’re the wrong flavor. You don’t need me to tell you that being around them is exhausting, and it takes a while to recover from that interaction.
As much as possible, stay clear of these people (you know who they are) and start surrounding yourself with positive, like-minded people. Remember that like attracts like.
8. Set up boundaries
Of course, you may not always have a choice of whether or not to interact with a negative person (hello, sister!) But, you do have a choice in what they take from you.
If this is someone permanently in your life, study their patterns. Recognizing what behaviors they have that drain you will help you determine how to protect yo’ self!
Don’t be afraid to set up boundaries. Ensuring you’re not drained allows you to bring your best self all your relationships.
BONUS TIP: I have one family member whose an eternal pessimist. When I chat with her on the phone and I start feeling drained, I immediately say something positive to raise my vibration. It works pretty well :)
- Here’s a fab article from my sister site about how to deal with “Energy Vampires” when they are people you love.
9. Don’t watch the news
Nearly every thing in the news nowadays is beyond draining. Keeping up with current events is important. I get it. But for me, it’s just not worth the yucky way I feel after I watch a stream of war, famine, political rhetoric or violence.
So if you’re constantly noticing that your empathic goodness is on the fritz after a jarring news story or sad movie, avoid them. If you do see something that bothers you, follow it up with something that makes you smile (like your fave episode of Friends).
10. Take control of your aura
Our aura (the energy surrounding our body) is a direct reflection of the emotions that we feel. When you’re at your tippy top, you’ll have a bright, gorgeous aura. When you encounter negative emotions, your aura can get dull, ripped, or damaged.
So, the next time you’re feeling overwhelmed or bombarded, take a deep breath and try to get a physical sense of where your aura is. Does it feel all spread out around the room? Try to call it back to yourself, really tightly! Pull it close and focus on making it nice and light again.
- Here are some aura cleansing ideas that will take your aura from drab to fab!
11. Take a grown-up time out
Hey, sometimes you just need a breather! For days when you just can NOT listen to your sister’s drama for one more minute, make taking a break a priority. Honor what you feel and practice self care.
Some fun time-out ideas:
- A bubble bath (with lavender oil – always!)
- A walk in the park
- Crank up your favorite music
- Indulge in your go-to flavor of ice cream
Yep — you knew this was coming. But meditating is a staple in empath health. Seriously, don’t leave your overwhelmed brain to its own devices. Take this opportunity to hop on your floor pillow and try a meditation.
Meditation pulls you out of the moment and gives you perspective (yes, please!) It also allows you to enter into a “witness frame of mind” which pulls you out of overwhelm. If you’re too flustered to enter into your own meditation, try a guided one! The apps Calm and Headspace have great guided meditations.
13. Use crystals
Using crystals is one of my favorite tips for thriving at being an empath.
It’s also one of my go-to ways to clear negative energy! I keep some in my home (especially on my desk where I work!), but I also stash one in my pocket when I know I’m going to be around a lot of people.
My favorite negative energy clearing crystal is black tourmaline, but there are other powerful ones as well including:
- Snowflake and black obsidian
- Apache tears
- Smoky quartz
14. Wash off negative energy
If you’ve been a situation that’s left you feeling blah and drained, you should freshen up and change your clothes as soon as you get home. Putting on some clean, comfy clothes and washing your hands and face (or even hopping in the shower if you have time) helps get those negative feelings off of you and freshens up your energy!
15. Sage yourself
I love sage cleansing! LOVE! I spruce up my home, my car, and MYSELF with sage… yep, myself! I fell head over heels for this sage spray.
Whenever I feel like I need an energetic pick me up – or to get rid of some blah energy, I just spritz a little sage spray around me.
It’s super easy and I can give my house a quick spritz of sage whenever it needs!
15 Tips for Being an Empath Takeaways
I used to feel that being an empath was a big, fat drain. But now that I’ve learned how to manage being an empath, I see it for the gift it really is!
Once you start implementing these tips, you’ll see what a gift being an empath is, too! We all know that the world needs more beautiful, loving energy. And that’s something that we, as clairsentients and empaths, can bring to the universe!
Next read: 7 Tips for Calming Clairsentient Anxiety