As your psychic abilities are developing, it’s normal for lots of questions to come up. Intuition, psychic development, and mediumship are all HUGE topics, so it’s totally understandable!
Because everyone’s gifts unfold differently, I can’t really give you a roadmap to your psychic abilities, but I can answer some very common questions. Today, I’m dipping into the mailbag to answer 12 reader questions in detail.
This is a FUN post, but really LONG, so grab a chai and get cozy!
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12 Questions about Your Psychic Abilities
Q 1: … I’ve really struggled getting anywhere [with my psychic abilities]. I meditate every day (and don’t always enjoy meditating) and then I get a bit worried of the unknown. Any advice? -Nicky
A: Yep. Stop worrying about the unknown :) In all honesty, there is nothing to be afraid of. This work is done from a place of light and love. Spirit energy is AMAZING. All of that freaky stuff is just in the movies.
As for meditating, I don’t always enjoy it either, to be honest with you. Sometimes, I looove it, and other times, it bores me to tears. The good news is that that there are lots of other ways of increasing your psychic abilities besides meditating such as:
- Going for a walk in nature
- Writing in a journal
- Writing a list of 50 things you are grateful for (I particularly like this gratitude journal because it’s eco-friendly and has writing prompts.)
You’ll find that highs and lows, and ebbs and flows are normal when you are developing your psychic abilities. Here is a post that will help you get unstuck.
Q 2: I have visions all day long Would you be able to explain to me how to interpret them? – Jeani
First, Yay! It’s great that you are opening up and embracing the journey. I LOVE to hear that. First things first though…
Do you really want to have psychic visions ALL. DAY. LONG.?
If I were you the first thing I would do is get the visions under control so they aren’t popping up all day long.
It’s wonderful to be open, but like the saying goes, “…don’t be so open that your brains fall out…”
It’s not that it’s dangerous or that your ACTUAL brains will fall out, but it might make you feel tired or ungrounded, you know?
So, before I start interpreting images, I would practice shutting down like this:
- Envision a light switch.
- Imagine clicking it to the “off” position.
- As you do this, set the intention that your psychic abilities are now “off” and you are not “available” to receive any visions.
This won’t shut your psychic abilities off forever, rather, it will help you learn to CONTROL them.
When you want to be “on”, just imagine doing the opposite – turning the light switch on and inviting Spirit and/or the visions/messages to come in.
As to how to interpret the visions, that can be one of the trickiest parts of your psychic abilities to figure out (and it does take time). Here’s what to do:
First, remember that learning how to interpret symbols is the equivalent of learning a whole new language customized just for you! So be patient with yourself.
Interpreting Symbols Tip #1
- At the top of the page, write a short description of the vision.
- On the following lines, write down any thoughts, feelings and/or sensations that you feel at the time.
- Ask yourself: Does this feel happy? Sad? Confusing?
- Tune into your body. Do you notice anything? If Spirit is trying to connect, you may get a twinge in a particular area or chakra. Take note and write it down.
What you want to do is continue to ask questions to begin a two-way communication with your Higher Self and/or the Spirit realm.
Interpreting Symbols Tip #2
I don’t read tarot, but this exercise can be helpful for learning to interpret symbols in psychic and mediumship readings.
- First, get yourself a tarot deck. The Rider Tarot Deck is a good one because it’s a classic.
- Take the booklet that comes with the cards and set it aside (you don’t need it).
- Grab your notebook and, at the top of the page, write down the name of the first tarot card.
- Close your eyes, take a deep breath and write out what the card means TO YOU. Don’t filter anything. There are no right or wrong answers. The point of this exercise is to get those psychic muscles working. Relax and allow it to be fun!
If you practice these psychic development exercises for a while, the visions will start to make a TON more sense and your confidence in your psychic abilities will grow tenfold!
Q 3: I am going through an awakening. I have decided to slow down for now… as it has been a bit of a wild ride so far. I’m following my own intuitive guide – my true self guides me. – Amar
Okay, so I know this isn’t a question, but I HAD to include this comment and say, Hells Yeah!
THIS is a way to go through an awakening – by listening to your intuitive guidance. If you feel like you need a break, take it.
If you feel like you need to Binge Watch 10 episodes of Modern Family, do it! If you need to journal, or nap, or whatever positive, yummy thing your soul is telling you to do, do it.
And remember, your psychic abilities are not spooky and your Higher Self always speaks positively (unlike my second grade teacher, Mrs. Gifford).
Q 4: What do you suggest for me to start with if I’m psychic? I’m 21. – Emily
I could write a 3,000 word blog post on this topic (and I probably should). But for now, I would start with daily meditation. That will help raise your vibration which is SO important to developing your psychic abilities.
I would also dip my toe in the water and start giving practice readings. I know that sounds intense, but let me explain:
Did you ever learn to ride a bike? I did and it was terrifying. My dad was supposed to be holding onto the back of my seat and he LET GO.
I wish I could say there was a happy ending to this story and that I rode my bike all the way down the street to the ice cream truck, but ’twas not to be! As soon as I noticed that he’d let go I freaked out and fell over. Of course, this was followed by lots of crying!
Did I eventually learn to ride? Yes!
Did my confidence grow? Heck yeah, I could ride without holding onto the handlebars back in the day!
When you are first developing your psychic ability, it’s a lot like learning to ride a bike. It’s scary, but the fear DOES go away the more you use your abilities.
I’m not just talking fear of an oogely-boogely, I’m also referring to lack of confidence, feeling doubt, and worrying that people will think you’re weird.
If I were you I would:
- Ask a friend if I could do a practice reading on her.
- I’d schedule a time for her to come over and, 10 minutes before she arrived, I’d set the intention that the reading is for her highest and best good. Then, I’d meditate.
- During my meditation, I’d invite my Spirit Guides in to help me.
- I’d write down any thoughts/feelings/images/messages that come through during the meditation. If you only write one thing… who cares… it’s a start.
- When she arrived, I tell her to ask a question about something in her life – something she needs guidance on. The thoughts/feelings/images you had during the meditation likely pertain to whatever issue is going on her life.
- I’d close my eyes and tune into her aura. And I’d tell her what I see/sense/feel about the situation (notice I didn’t say *think* – use your sixth sense).
- Then, I’d thank my Guides and let them know the reading is over.
- Next week, I’d “rinse and repeat” and do the whole process over again with this or another friend.
Like riding a bike, practice makes it easier. So that’s what I would do – just jump in!
Q 5: Hi Jessica. Please help! Am I a medium?
This message came from Rylee and she went on to share the details of her experiences, which entail having Spirit visits during her sleep. She was nervous about sharing her experiences with her family member (because she didn’t want to be thought of as crazy – how many of us can relate?), but the more she avoided talking about it, the more emotional she became and the heavier she felt. She asks: “Is it always like this?…”
I’m always touched when people have the courage to reach out to me for help about their experiences, but this one really choked me up. First, I applaud Rylee (and everyone!) for allowing themselves to be vulnerable enough to reach out for help. With that said, here’s what I feel:
Okay so first, let’s answer the fifty-cent question. “Am I a medium?” I say YES! :) But like I always tell people, if you are asking that question, you usually know, somewhere deep down in your heart that you are. Sometimes, we just need to be validated in what we feel.
(BTW here’s a post with 15 signs that you’re a psychic medium, not a crazy person.)
Second, it’s common for Spirit to come and visit us in our dreams. Why? Because it’s easier for Spirit to connect with us while our logical minds are at rest (i.e. not in the way overthinking everything!).
It’s especially common for people whose mediumship is developing to dream of Spirit, have psychic dreams, and remember their astral travel experiences. You may also see or hear Spirit while you are falling asleep.
Third, let’s talk about the emotion piece of this. I want to tell you that emotion is OK. I had a mentor once who said there is “no crying in mediumship” and it affected my work for a long time. Pardon my language but… Screw that!
You are an empath, so of course you are going to feel everything deeply. One thing I suggest you start working on is getting the empath part of your gift under control. I promise, it can be done. I’ve done it myself :) Here are a couple of posts that will help with your sensitivity:
- 15 Signs You’re an Empath
- The Empath Survival Guide
- Empath Tips: What to do When You Feel Everything
Lastly, “will it always be like this?” No, it won’t. In the beginning, it’s exhilarating and sucks all at the same time. If I had a Kleenex for every time I wanted to quit… well, let’s just say I would have made a lot of money on Kleenex stock.
A HUGE part of this that a lot of people (myself included) don’t get in the beginning of a psychic awakening is that this whole process is a JOURNEY. Yeah, yeah, I know I say that a lot – because it’s true.
You are going to learn SO much about yourself during this that you are going to want to jump for joy and scream from frustration all at the same time. It’s a crazy ride, but so incredibly rewarding.
- This post is a MUST read :) It’s 10 things I wish someone had told about becoming a psychic medium. It’s raw and honest. Lots of love!
Q 6: Is there a best formula to use when one just recently opened their third eye? Because I have to admit – it’s quite scary with these sounds and visions. – Sifiso
Typically, no. There really isn’t a formula for your psychic abilities (though it would be nice if there were).
BUT, in your particular case, yes! If I were you, I would work on getting my vibration up. More about that in a minute, first…
You should absolutely NOT be seeing anything scary or hearing anything scary. Everything from the spirit realm is totally loving because it’s from the Divine. When scary creeps in that means your Ego (the physical you, not the spiritual YOU) is getting in the way.
That’s why you need to raise your vibration. Once you do, that scariness will melt away and you’ll feel SO much more connected to your Higher Self.
Now, as to how to raise your vibration. It’s pretty easy, actually :)
Spend time doing any activities you like. Go on a hike, do some woodworking, sing, dance, draw, journal, anything that makes your soul feel good!
The other thing I highly recommend is reading Esther Hicks’ book Ask and it is Given. For me personally, this book was LIFE CHANGING. I’m not even kidding!
Not only are there books, there are also YouTube videos (just search Abraham Hicks or Esther Hicks), TONS of amazing books, audios, and card decks that you can use for daily inspiration. I am super passionate about these teachings because they probably saved my life. (It made me see life in a completely new way.)
Once your vibration is up, the scary visions and sounds will go away. I promise, there is nothing to be afraid of.
Q 7: I have a feeling I have been developing mediumship gifts. I have always felt intuitive… Fear is holding me back from developing my gifts, and making me want to oppress it completely. I have no idea what to do. – Kayley
Fear holds people back, for sure. As you can see from my other replies in this post, there is nothing to be afraid of because the Divine is all light and love. It’s actually the purest form of love there is!
If I were you, I would sit down and write out exactly WHAT you are afraid of? Have you thought about that?
- Is it a fear of seeing scary images? (We’ve talked about that above)
- Fear of others thinking you’re a weirdo (that was a HUGE fear for me)?
- Could it be fear that you DON’T want to be psychic? If so… why not?
- Or is it that you are feeling energy so intensely that it’s too much for you?
I would go within and figure out what exact fear is holding you back. This may give you an eye-opening Aha moment :) I would also pick up a copy of Sonia Choquette’s book, The Psychic Pathway, which, for a tiny price, will take you on a 12-week soul journey.
Sending lots of love your way!
Q 8: I have this really strong rush of energy that goes through my body and tingling. It’s so powerful. I also get it going through my hands when I try to put them together, it’s like two opposite magnets fighting against each other. I had an awakening two weeks ago and since then I can close my eyes and see black background with white shapes like angels, stars and sparkles. Can you please explain this to me please? – Melina
Sure! First off, you’ve completely hit the nail on the head when you used the worse “rush of energy”. You’ve pretty much answered your own question right there ;)
You know how it is… you
walk run into Kohl’s at 4am after downing three-and-a-half cups of strong, black coffee.
Your cold from sitting outside in a lawn chair while you waited for the doors to open. Then finally… TA DA! Let the games begin!
You – and seemingly everyone else on planet Earth – runs in to grab the latest version of talking Elmo… It’s chaotic and your adrenaline is pumping big time! Maybe you got your Elmo, maybe you didn’t. Either way, you felt a SURGE of energy when those doors opened!
At first, your psychic abilities can feel like THAT. The energy is chaotic and untamed because you’re not used to it. (Have you read the story of the first time I experienced this energy? Oh, well, it was so intense I almost quit!)
Now about the sensation of your hands being like “magnets”. To me, this is a sign that you would be AMAZING at psychometry. I have a whole detailed post about it here. Do read it for sure because it will help you channel that energy.
As far as the black background with shapes… this tells me one of two things (both exciting!):
- You are clairvoyant (which is a fancy way of saying you receive intuitive messages via visions.)
- You’re probably a medium (Yay!)
Either way the shapes and sparkles are just a start and your clairvoyance and mediumship will become stronger and clearer over time :)
Q 9: Yesterday, I heard someone calling my name in public and I checked with my mum whether or not she called me and she said no. Do I have clairaudience? – Chloe
When that happens to me I’m always hopeful that it’s Ryan Reynolds calling my name, but it never is. Yes, you could very well be clairaudient (which is a super fun intuitive gift to have!).
Instead of reinventing the wheel, I’m going to direct you to some other blog posts that I’ve written about this topic:
- How to Discover Your Strongest Intuitive Gift (I wrote this post for my sister-site)
- 11 Signs That You Might be Clairaudient
Q 10: I’m a bit curious if I have psychic ability. Two friends gave me a reading and said “you’re gifted”. They said I have a strong third eye, things like that. Well, I always thought that the third eye is like seeing ghosts, etc. – Gilian
Au, contraire! Clairvoyant ability is THE most misunderstood psychic ability of all. I wrote a whole blog post about it here, which I think you will find super helpful.
Also, developing clairvoyance is pretty easy! Here’s a whole post about how to do so.
Q 11: I came across your article about psychic children. Is it possible for us to still be psychic as adults? I think I am. – Advik
Oh yes, of course, for sure! As young children we are still aware that we are spiritual beings. But over time, we are taught by our parents and teachers that logic rules. Most of us weren’t taught to “trust our gut” or “follow our intuition” or the “voice within”.
Things are changing now, but back in the day, if you shared your psychic experiences with anyone, they would think you were crazy!
So yes, it is still possible to be psychic as adults. If you think you are, I’d encourage you to ask your soul. I bet your soul says, “YES! You are psychic because you are a spiritual being” :)
Nothing is lost and you can always reconnect and tap into your intuitive gifts. Actually, Sonia Choquette has a wonderful book called Trust Your Vibes that might be just what you need at this point in your journey.
Q 12: I feel like my intuitive feelings are getting stronger but my family doesn’t believe in things like this. I honestly want to embrace and learn how to further understand things. Do you have any advice? – Anshirley
That stinks, I’m sorry to hear that. But yes, I do have advice.
- First, here’s a post about coming out of the psychic closet without anxiety.
- Second, here’s a post I wrote for my sister site that talks about living with your gifts when no one understands. It’s perfect for what you are going through.