To me, there are no sweeter words on earth than:
- I love you
- Would you like some coffee?
Let’s take coffee out of the equation and focus on the words I love you… specifically, what these words mean when you are giving someone a mediumship reading.
If you’re a mediumship newbie, this simple post will open your eyes more than if the Kool Aid man burst through your door. Let’s dig in!
The most important part of any mediumship reading is… (drum roll please)
Hands down. Period. Without a doubt. Season finale. The whole enchilada.
The absolute most important part of any mediumship reading is the message.
Of course, when communicating with Spirit, validating evidence that proves the continuity of life after death is uberly important. I’m talking about things like:
- personality traits
- how someone passed
- the hobbies they had while they were living
- stuff about their life (were they married/had kids/what kind of job they did)
- their name or initials
- anything that helps validate them to their family/friends
All of that is awesome, amazing, and important.
But, what I see happening a LOT with my students is that they get so nervous and focused on the validating evidence that they completely forget the most important part of the reading – the message.
Stop and think about it for a minute. WHY do people visit mediums?
Sure, it would be fun to hang with James Van Praagh or share a taco with Monica the Medium, but people aren’t seeking out mediums because they’re fun.
They are getting readings because they want to reconnect with their loved one in heaven.
They want to feel their loved one around. When their mediumship reading is over, they want the feeling that they had a VISIT with their loved one in heaven.
- Bringing forth Spirit’s personality and validating traits IS very important and you SHOULD develop those abilities. This helps prove the continuity of life after death AND helps the person you are reading for KNOW that it is their aunt/mom/brother/father/spouse coming through in the reading.
- But make sure you PASS on a meaningful message. The messages are what is going to give that person the connection with their loved one that they are seeking. It’s what helps give them that sense of having a visit from heaven!
I love you isn’t enough (and an umbrella proves it)
It’s totally great if Spirit wants you to pass on messages of love such as “I love you,” or “I’m proud of you” to their family/friends.
But here’s the thing… the majority of people already KNOW that their person in Spirit loved them.
It’s like having popcorn at the movies. Sure, the popcorn is yummy and satisfying, but if it isn’t loaded with butter the movie watching/popcorn experience isn’t complete.
The butter is the message.
Give them the butter, it’s the best part.
When you are giving a mediumship reading, you really want to tune in to Spirit and get a meaningful message.
And don’t think that it has to be a big, profound message, or some secrets of the Universe.
The message could be ANYTHING.
Just because it doesn’t have special significance to you and me doesn’t mean it’s not completely meaningful to the person you are giving the reading to.
Here’s an example:
Years ago, a mentor of mine was up on stage giving “gallery” type readings (like John Edward used to do in his TV show Crossing Over) to a group of about 500 people.
During this very special gallery, she allowed students to come up on stage and practice giving readings to the people in the crowd.
One mediumship student was spot on with everything he said. He told a woman in the crowd how her husband had passed away, a bunch of details about his personality, what the husband did for a living, and even the name of the family pet!
It was beautiful!
But here’s where it gets interesting:
When this student was done, our mentor said to the woman in the audience, “Oh, I just have one thing to add. Your husband says he’s glad you are using the yellow umbrella.”
Well, the woman burst into tears. The yellow umbrella had a LOT of significance to her.
It had belonged to her husband and, now that he was gone, she brought it to and from her car every day, just to remind her of him.
When the gallery ended, the woman came up to my mentor and thanked her for the message about the umbrella. She went on and on about how happy she was to know her husband knew she was using his umbrella.
My mentor was really surprised that, of all of the validating things the student medium said about her husband, the umbrella was what really made her feel connected.
The moral of the story: Don’t forget the message :)