I am THRILLED to bring you this guest post from Ashley Strong of Love Light and Spirit. It’s an wonderful post on a subject that needs to be talked about. This excites me as much as the mango smoothie I’m drinking :) Enjoy!
When most people think about mediums now-a-days they think of TV mediums and most TV mediums have one thing in common… They are usually followed around by cameras while delivering spirit messages to anyone that has a loved one willing to come through! This is all fine and dandy for most of the people they show on the screen, but what about the ones they don’t show? Is everyone open and willing to hear a message from spirit? The short answer is, NO!
On TV they are able to edit out anyone who is unwilling to receive. The production crew is able to show you the happy moments and joyful tears when the girl at Subway finds out her dad is standing behind her. They show you the father asking a celebrity medium to tell his daughter he loves her and he’s proud of her, but in real life it doesn’t always work this way.
First things first, most of us don’t remain this open all of the time. We set boundaries and we decide when we want to connect to spirit…and it ain’t while we are grocery shopping, okaaaay? Sometimes though, spirit is pretty persistent and they want to get their message out there…right now! What’s a medium to do in these situations; do we just deliver the message without first asking for permission?
Not a good idea.
When I finally had a grasp on my gifts and could easily identify a spirit, I wanted to share it with the world! I felt like everyone should love this stuff as much as I did and everyone needed to be open to it because it was such a beautiful thing! I learned that wasn’t true and I learned it quick!
When my father in law turned 60 we threw him this huge party; all of the family was there…even the ones who had passed. I thought this was such an amazing and beautiful thing I wanted to share it with my husband…
“Your grandmother is here.” I said
“Oh yea?” my husband’s response was pretty “weak” in my opinion.
“Yea and so is your dad’s brother…I know he had a twin, but there is another set of twins here. Do you know who they are?”
“Dude, I’m just trying to have a good time. I don’t want to talk about all of this right now.” My husband’s response wasn’t exactly what I was hoping for…
During this trip I met a girl on a bus who had some children in spirit hanging around her…I got brave and told her about them. She totally shut me down in front of everyone…I was mortified.
I was the last one to exit the bus and she leaned over and said to me, “I know what you meant.”
I smiled, but deep down I was wondering why she didn’t just validate what I said…
Well I know now and it’s because readings and spirit messages are usually very personal and shouldn’t be broadcast to the entire world without the receiver’s permission. To add to that, we as intuitives don’t have the right to go around reading other people’s energy and delivering these messages without first getting permission. It’s ethics and I know that now! So far those two incidents are my only regrets surrounding my mediumship practice, which is why I want to share it with YOU!
It’s all about boundaries and respect! We ask spirit to respect our boundaries and we need to respect other people’s boundaries regarding spirit.
My husband comes from a very religious background and was highly uncomfortable with the idea of mediumship in the beginning and there I was basically giving him a reading without his permission…total disregard for boundaries in my case and I know that now. Perhaps those two incidents happened on purpose to teach me what not to do…I am a firm believer in every lesson is a blessin’!
So what DO you do if a spirit is being persistent and you really feel the urge to get their message across?
- Ask the spirit to put a memory of themselves in the person’s mind. Ask them to make the person speak about them.
- Ask the spirit to give that person a sign or a “coincidence”
These ideas will open an opportunity for you to say something like
- “Oh I am positive that your loved one is with you now, watching over you and guiding you!”
- “That came out of nowhere huh? Must be a loved one letting you know they are around…he’s just letting you know he loves you!”
These are open-ended statements and save you from having to put yourself completely out there while still getting your message across. This will leave the person feeling loved and really thinking about what you said. Hopefully their spirit will start giving them new signs!
Spirit is something that is accepted by most religions whether it be in the form of God, angels, or saints; the fact is that when people pray they are talking to spirit. You giving them this subtle message won’t be nearly as alarming or offending as “hey you have a dead guy behind you jumping up and down trying to get your attention!”
Now-a-day’s I keep my spirit interactions mostly to myself, I uphold the Spiritual Code of Ethics, and I honor and value the significance and importance of a mediumship reading. Now, all of my readings are done in private phone sessions or over email. I have learned to respect boundaries and I have learned that if someone’s soul is ready for a reading they will find me when the time is right!
So much love,
About Ashley Strong
Ashley Strong is a mom, wife, and psychic medium. She spends her days playing with her toddler, writing blogs about intuitive development, giving mediumship readings, and coaching fellow intuitives. On her down time you can find her with her toes in the sand or sipping red wine while snuggled up to her husband enjoying the latest Netflix trend.
When Ashley started discovering the secrets to positivity her childhood gifts began to resurface in full-force. After 20 something years she learned to accept her gifts and accept who she was, so she dove head first into her mediumship abilities. Ashley changed her life completely for the better by accepting her gifts and now lives a life she could have only dreamed of. Ashley Strong is a proud psychic medium and coach who strives to bring a down to Earth approach on a not so down to Earth subject.”